Sunday, May 9, 2010

Top 3 Ways to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

There is a stigma about long distance relationships that has made it hard for everyone to accept them as loving and solid relationships. While I will admit that they are not exactly anyone’s ideal relationship situation that does not mean that long distance relationships are all doomed and everyone should avoid them like the plague. What we are going to dive into today is the top 3 ways to make a long distance relationship work.

First off, everyone already knows that good communication is the key to any relationship, whether you are living in the same house or living on separate continents, it still holds true for all relationships. It is important to be able to communicate with each other on some level every day. This allows you to be reminded of them and for them to remember things about you. Communication is not limited to just talking or texting on the phone. It can be emails, snail mail (that’s written letters), smoke signals, carrier pigeons, whatever will get the message across to them. Again, this should be done daily so that you can build a bond with one another. You can occasionally miss days, but try to avoid not communicating with one another for any extended amount of time. This allows your mind to go crazy coming up with possible scenarios.

Another key to long distance relationships is to work on having a balanced relationship with each other. I don’t believe that any relationship can have both people love/like each other equally, but it is a goal to work towards. There is nothing to worry about as long as both of you make sure that each others' needs are being met. Getting to know those needs is what we are going to examine next.

Setting parameters and asking questions about expectations of the relationship are tough questions to ask, but I assure you that doing so will define the relationship. Asking these questions will also give you both a chance to worry about getting to know each other better, rather than worrying about what the boundaries and expectations of the relationship are.

This leads me to another point I want to make. Asking questions is very crucial to all relationships as it has to do with communication. As I said before, communication is one of the most important elements of any relationship, and getting to know another person by asking questions is the key to communication.

Friday, April 30, 2010

3 Keys to Keeping a Great Relationship

Ok guys, now that you’re in an awesome relationship things begin to hit a leveling out point. This is where many couples hit snags in their relationship and can pull partners apart. We will delve into three ways to push past this point and to keep your relationship alive and thriving.

One big trap that many guys fall into is thinking that we have to be the “Nice Guy” all the time. Now don’t get me wrong. There is nothing at all wrong with being a considerate male, but you should have limits. Bending over backwards to assure that your partner is happy is not the way to keep things exciting. What can happen is the woman will start to realize that you are predictable in the way that whatever she wants, you’ll get for her.

So one way to address this is for you to take ownership of your actions and do things that you want to do. You can still be nice to your partner, but just don’t overdo it. Do things for yourself and not just because she wants something. This will show her that you are not just a push over and that you are still sweet to her, but the point I am trying to make is that her being happy isn’t running your life.

Another key to keeping a great relationship is to let her miss you. This goes hand in hand with being too much of a “Nice Guy”. Having some alone time is a good way for you to either go hang out with friends or catch up on some things that you have been neglecting yourself of. Allow her to miss you being around by taking a night to yourself every couple of weeks or every month. This will also give her a chance for some alone time for herself.

One last key to keeping a great relationship is to not worry about the small things. Caring too much about your partner’s imperfections can really ruin a relationship. I know that everyone thinks that they are close to perfect because we live with ourselves and know everything that happens with us. Realize that no one is perfect, not even you, and when you find imperfections about your partner, remember to think about yourself and things that might annoy others.

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Thursday, April 22, 2010

Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend

Getting to know your girlfriend can actually be fun and exciting. I know guys, on the surface, it seems like more of a chore than something you would actually look forward to, but let me show you a couple of reasons why getting to know your girlfriend on a deeper level can actually be fun and not to mention rewarding.

Firstly, if you are in a committed relationship and have your girlfriend as someone who you could potentially marry, I would highly recommend asking her serious questions about herself. Getting to know your on a deeper level will give you a clear picture of the person you are with and can help you see if you are totally happy with the answers you receive.

There are certain questions that you should stay away from if you are just getting to know a person though. When you are just beginning to date someone, you should probably stay away from questions concerning politics, death and previous relationships. You can leave these questions to ask your girlfriend for once you have been in a relationship with your girlfriend for a while. Keep questions when you are first getting to know a girl to fun and exciting questions. This will help her to see the fun side of you and have her remember the question asking experience as a exciting one.

You should bring up questions to ask your girlfriend in a playful, fun and exciting way. This will allow you to enjoy the experience instead of it being a chore, and she will appreciate all the effort you are putting into getting to know her on a deeper level. Getting to know your girlfriend on a deeper level will show your girlfriend that you want to get to know her not just for her looks, but for who she is as a person. She will appreciate this and you benefit by knowing who your girlfriend truly is.

There is one thing that I want to make you aware of though. You want to be honest with your girlfriend and you want her to be totally honest with you. With that being known, know that she may give you answers that you may not like. The thing about this is that you can choose how you react to her answers and what you want to do about it. Especially if you are at a place in your relationship where you are thinking about spending the rest of your life with this person, it is better to know the answer to those questions before you take that step into marriage.

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