Sunday, May 9, 2010

Top 3 Ways to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

There is a stigma about long distance relationships that has made it hard for everyone to accept them as loving and solid relationships. While I will admit that they are not exactly anyone’s ideal relationship situation that does not mean that long distance relationships are all doomed and everyone should avoid them like the plague. What we are going to dive into today is the top 3 ways to make a long distance relationship work.

First off, everyone already knows that good communication is the key to any relationship, whether you are living in the same house or living on separate continents, it still holds true for all relationships. It is important to be able to communicate with each other on some level every day. This allows you to be reminded of them and for them to remember things about you. Communication is not limited to just talking or texting on the phone. It can be emails, snail mail (that’s written letters), smoke signals, carrier pigeons, whatever will get the message across to them. Again, this should be done daily so that you can build a bond with one another. You can occasionally miss days, but try to avoid not communicating with one another for any extended amount of time. This allows your mind to go crazy coming up with possible scenarios.

Another key to long distance relationships is to work on having a balanced relationship with each other. I don’t believe that any relationship can have both people love/like each other equally, but it is a goal to work towards. There is nothing to worry about as long as both of you make sure that each others' needs are being met. Getting to know those needs is what we are going to examine next.

Setting parameters and asking questions about expectations of the relationship are tough questions to ask, but I assure you that doing so will define the relationship. Asking these questions will also give you both a chance to worry about getting to know each other better, rather than worrying about what the boundaries and expectations of the relationship are.

This leads me to another point I want to make. Asking questions is very crucial to all relationships as it has to do with communication. As I said before, communication is one of the most important elements of any relationship, and getting to know another person by asking questions is the key to communication.